Ladies, while we should do what we can do to meet a person of value, we should not persist in initiating and pursuing. Instead, we should exercise compassion, build friendships, pray and maintain appropriate boundaries.
If there are people who think that we are dating someone from the opposite sex, then we are probably acting as if we are.
Back off from spending so much time with a friend from the opposite sex to whom you do not consider to be God’s best for you, or who does not have any intentions of putting your connection to the next level. Simply because our time on earth is just short, and we should spend it with people whom God has really intended for us, the way God has planned for us.
Giving a guy less attention, could stir him to move honorably towards you.
Again, initiating out of despair would just cause the man to go away from us since they are created to be hunters and not the other way around.
If you find yourself in such a relationship with the opposite sex, ask God for wisdom and discernment.
When it comes to the relationship with the opposite sex lacking clarity, the buddy system is a lousy idea.
We should not deceive others by implying a role meant for married people through impure intimacy, when it does not exist. (I Thessalonians 4:1-8)
Love does not harm others. Romans 13:8-14.
We should favor weaker people above ourselves by valuing and encouraging that which is advantageous in the souls of others.
- Decide not to post any stumbling block in the course of others – Romans 14:13.
- Accept other people’s weakness and be concerned for their well-being rather than indulge ourselves – Romans 15:1.
- Exert every effort to do only what leads to mutual edification.
- Build others up – Romans 15:2.
It is extremely difficult and rare to honor these principles in the context of an intimate and close relationship with the opposite sex.
Intimate friendships between opposite sex almost always cause confusion and frustration to at least one of the parties involved. Intimate friendships tend to require considerable time talking and hanging out one-on-one. Intimate relationships require a thorough knowledge of the other person’s identity, desires, and hopes. This involves sharing of various aspects of each other’s daily lives and routines. This involves much of the type of intimacy and companionship meant for marriage.
Despite any serious talks to Define The Relationship, at least one person in the relationship unavoidably involves a mixed message. No matter how clearly you have defined what is happening as “just friends,” your actions always says that you enjoy being with each other and that you love interacting with each other in a way that suggests marriage.
Whether one of you began the “friendship” with romantic feelings or had these feelings developed, one of you could depend on to the friendship with the hope of getting something more despite complete words that you want nothing beyond friendship. Continuing with the union is seeking and allowing opportunistic advantage of the vulnerable party.
There is a time in life to avoid all the tension and people who make it.
Surround yourself with people who bless you.
Forget the decayed and focus on the good.
Bless the people who treat you well and pray for the ones who don’t.
Life is too short to be anything but happy.
It is always the FALSE that hurts you.
Dare mighty things to win glorious triumphs.
To have something that you never had, you have to do something that you never did.
The will of God will never see you where the Grace of God will not protect you.
Have a blessed day beautiful Ladies!