Counterfeit God’s best

Ladies, while we should do what we can do to meet a person of value, we should not persist in initiating and pursuing. Instead, we should exercise compassion, build friendships, pray and maintain appropriate boundaries.

Man is given the priviledge to do the asking.
It is only necessary that we should check the way we relate with friends from the opposite sex.

If there are people who think that we are dating someone from the opposite sex, then we are probably acting as if we are.

If a guy has not pursued you despite all the prodding that he gets, there is a reason. He could either be shy or uninterested. We should not deny guys the privilege of having joy in being forthright about their intentions for us. When we give freely to a man a lot of incentives from an intimate relationship without requiring any liability from them, we deny them this priviledge.

Back off from spending so much time with a friend from the opposite sex to whom you do not consider to be God’s best for you, or who does not have any intentions of putting your connection to the next level. Simply because our time on earth is just short, and we should spend it with people whom God has really intended for us, the way God has planned for us.

Giving a guy less attention, could stir him to move honorably towards you.

If he doesn’t, consider yourself saved from any more wasted time. His response just reveals that he is not interested in moving your relationship toward marriage.

Again, initiating out of despair would just cause the man to go away from us since they are created to be hunters and not the other way around. 

Indulging in an intimate friendship with a person not pursuing you is accepting a cheap imitation of love. Spending all your time with a man who will never marry you could cause you to miss God’s best for you.

If you find yourself in such a relationship with the opposite sex, ask God for wisdom and discernment.

When it comes to the relationship with the opposite sex lacking clarity, the buddy system is a lousy idea.

We should not deceive others by implying a role meant for married people through impure intimacy, when it does not exist. (I Thessalonians 4:1-8)

Defrauding includes inappropriate touching as well as emotional intimacy.

Love does not harm others. Romans 13:8-14.

We should favor weaker people above ourselves by valuing and encouraging that which is advantageous in the souls of others.

  1. Decide not to post any stumbling block in the course of others – Romans 14:13.
  2. Accept other people’s weakness and be concerned for their well-being rather than indulge ourselves – Romans 15:1.
  3. Exert every effort to do only what leads to mutual edification.
  4. Build others up – Romans 15:2.

It is extremely difficult and rare to honor these principles in the context of an intimate and close relationship with the opposite sex. 

Intimate friendships between opposite sex almost always cause confusion and frustration to at least one of the parties involved. Intimate friendships tend to require considerable time talking and hanging out one-on-one. Intimate relationships require a thorough knowledge of the other person’s identity, desires, and hopes. This involves sharing of various aspects of each other’s daily lives and routines. This involves much of the type of intimacy and companionship meant for marriage.

Despite any serious talks to Define The Relationship, at least one person in the relationship unavoidably involves a mixed message. No matter how clearly you have defined what is happening as “just friends,” your actions always says that you enjoy being with each other and that you love interacting with each other in a way that suggests marriage.
Whether one of you began the “friendship” with romantic feelings or had these feelings developed, one of you could depend on to the friendship with the hope of getting something more despite complete words that you want nothing beyond friendship. Continuing with the union is seeking and allowing opportunistic advantage of the vulnerable party.

There is a time in life to avoid all the tension and people who make it.
Surround yourself with people who bless you.
Forget the decayed and focus on the good.
Bless the people who treat you well and pray for the ones who don’t.
Life is too short to be anything but happy.

It is always the FALSE that hurts you. 

Fanciful desires. 
Fictitious fears. 
Distorted values. 
Delusive ideas.
Misleading relationships. 
Flee from evil to be free of pain. 
Truth will give you joy. 
Truth is liberating.

Dare mighty things to win glorious triumphs.

At the end, it is not about the rules on dating, since there is someone else who is much more powerful than anything else. Someone else who is the author of Love. He created all things. Everything comes from Him. 
The best thing that we could do is to seek the giver and not the blessings. After all, everything else is just a bonus if we are intimate with Him. Let us give Him all the attention that is due to Him, simply by appreciating everything that He has given and blessed us and loving everything that He has created for us.

To have something that you never had, you have to do something that you never did.

The will of God will never see you where the Grace of God will not protect you.

When God takes something from your grasp, He’s not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better.

Have a blessed day beautiful Ladies!


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